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By flickr user babeh_babs
April 22, 2014

Lesbian? Lesbian!

A woman I work with, let’s call her Sally, has a son who got a divorce. One day the ex-wife came into the store and Sally asked her how she’s doing.

“I’m okay,” the girl started. Then, a little embarrassed, she continued, “I’m living with my girlfriend now.”

Sally was floored. She could barely get the story out to tell people. I don’t know Sally that well, so I just listened to her have a little freakout in front of me, not knowing why it was really happening–why she felt like that. Then she explained: “We always thought something was wrong with her, now we know what it was! She always was stupid.”

I’m surrounded by people like this in a conservative little town but it still always surprises me. It seems like these should only be exaggerated characters in movies, not real people.

March 30, 2014

My Own Space

My ex-wife lived with me for 3 months following our decision to get a divorce. The first month was hell, the rest was okay with moments of unpleasantness.

I gave up keeping my house as clean as I wanted it. She wasn’t as into keeping it clean as I was, and it got dreary trying to keep up with both of our messes. So I let her stuff pile up, kept small corners of cleanliness for myself, and held out until her house funding came through.

Most of her things are gone. I am amazed at how much joy I get from making a space my own. I haven’t done that in 4 years.

January 16, 2014

Writing again

I haven’t written anything in so long it seems like I’ve forgotten how. But only at first. Once I start writing I remember that I’ve found my voice, that now I’m just trying to track it down.

We probably won’t recognize each other at first, and he’ll rightfully be pissed that I’ve ignored him for so long. But we’ll get over that, find out how each of us has changed, and start working together again.

Then again maybe he’ll be grateful. It’s been years since I was a philosophy undergrad and God knows that was an obnoxious time to be around me.

November 21, 2012

What we don’t see

In the forward march of Progress our society tends to view events as if they are numbers and facts written on paper.

When we are told the city is clearing old apartment buildings to make way for new ones–to create buildings that are up to code with capacity to house many more people–it’s easy not to think about what happens to those people who lived in the old buildings.

On paper it appears as though they are being given the opportunity to live in a better place.

muay thai head kick
November 10, 2012

Muay Thai

Muay Thai boxing is the national sport of Thailand, but it’s practiced all over the world. Opponents can use hands, feet, knees and elbows.

In Buddhist culture the foot is the dirtiest part of the body. Hitting someone’s face or head with your foot is the most insulting blow a fighter can give an opponent, thus it receives the most points.

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